Check out this article on an adoptee fighting for fellow orphans.
This ten-year-old adopted from Columbia is now fundraising for the hosting program that brought her here. She wants to encourage other orphans that come here that they can have a good home just like she does.
The difficulty is that hosting programs sometimes add to a child’s burdens. This winter, my family acted as an emergency host family for a hosting program in the DC area. For ten days, Vova, a fourteen-year-old Ukranian orphan, stayed with us.
Although 14, he looked about nine or ten, which threw us all off. The way you treat a fourteen-year-old and a nine-year-old are quite different.
He also has lots of attachment disorders. From a young age, if kids aren’t shown affection and love and are instead abused and neglected, they often never learn how to form proper relationships with people around them.
So although Vova thoroughly enjoyed his time here, his needs are too severe and he’s too old to “successfully” adopt. Plus, he doesn’t want to be adopted. He’s got extended family in the Ukraine that he’s still somewhat in touch with, so why rip him away from that.
If you look at these hosting agencies Web sites (like the one in the article above) you see pictures and short paragraphs summing up the essences of these children. These blurbs are often written by people who stay with the kids for only a few hours or days.
Go. If you’re interested in adopting, go there, see for yourself, do the research yourself.
It’s not fair for kids like Vova to come to the U.S. with expectations of adoption (let’s not pretend they don’t know the purpose of the trip — a meet-and-greet with a potential “forever family”) only to be sent back after a month with a family convinced that the child has too many “issues” to adopt.